Who are you talking to?
As part of my Seminary training, I spent a semester as a chaplain at the Anoka State Mental Hospital in Minnesota. I had an opportunity to meet a wide variety of people with a range of mental and physical conditions.
I would often find “Arnie”, (which is what I will call him) sitting in the back lounge carrying on a very fine conversation.
That wouldn’t have been too unusual, except that “Arnie” was the only person in the back lounge when I would walk in. He was carrying on this fine conversation all by himself.
(I should say this was in the day before Bluetooth ear sets, now you see people talking to themselves everywhere!)
The conversation would range far and wide. It would jump from topic to topic quite naturally, and then come back full circle.
Arnie would gladly engage me in the conversation when I sat down with him as if I were just another person in the room, but if I challenged him on a point, he would most likely dismiss it.
“No, we’ve talked about that,” he’d say. The “we” (meaning the conversation he was having with himself inside his head.) “We think it’s this way.”
It did little good to try to bring an outside opinion into Arnie’s conversation. He much preferred agreeing with himself.
You can’t be too hard on Arnie, because he’s just an amplified example of what we all tend to do.
Don’t believe me?
Come on, now, when was the last time you went shopping and debated about the purchase of an item?
Who were you really talking to?
Sometimes we talk with our greater expectations of ourselves. “I really shouldn’t have another pair of shoes, I don’t really need them.”
Sometimes we find ourselves talking with our parents or our significant other. “Mom and dad would have slept on this kind of purchase before making it.”
“What will he say/she say, if I walk into the house carrying this?”
Sometimes we hold that conversation with the externals of life. “Hey, I can afford it. It’s a quality item, a good buy, and a decent price, why shouldn’t I get it and enjoy it!”
No matter who you think you might be talking to in that moment of decision; you are really just talking to yourself.
And do you know what I have discovered in all my 60+ years of living and holding these kinds of conversations with myself?
I’ve discovered that I can pretty much talk myself into whatever I want!
How about you?
This is the insight we need to bring to this Gospel lesson.
The man in the crowd approaches Jesus with what at first would seem to be a laudable request. “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.”
It was not unusual in the time of Jesus for Rabbi’s to be consulted as arbiter in matters of family squabbles, or trade disagreements, to offer a neutral opinion.
It sounds like a good move to involve an impartial arbiter.
But on closer examination, that’s not really the what the young man is asking for.
This man who approaches Jesus in the crowd has already decided what should be done!
He isn’t asking Jesus to mediate his dispute.
He’s asking Jesus to make his brother pony up to what he has already decided is the best course of action.
“Bid my brother divide the inheritance with me!”
It’s time to split up the farm and livestock and go our separate ways!
To the man’s request Jesus gives a warning about greed, and then he tells this parable about the rich fool to punctuate it.
What the parable makes painfully clear is what happens when the only person you are consulting in an important matter is really just yourself!
Take a look again at the circumstances in this Rich Fool’s life. He is blessed with an abundant crop, and who does he consult about it?
Only Himself!
There is no thought as to going outside, no checking with the needs of the community, no commentary about how it could be used for the benefit of others!
He is at such a loss as to what to do with this abundance that comes his way that he never even consults anyone outside of himself about what could be done with it.
Particularly absent is any conversation with God about it.
And so, he asks himself what he should to do!
And guess what conclusion he draws?
He undertakes a building program for his own benefit, so that he can take it easy from here on out and enjoy life.
He never questions if this is the right thing to do, the just thing to do. He is completely confident in his decisions right up until the first outside voice that intrudes upon his conversation with himself.
The outside voice is that of God, who says, “Fool!”
“Fool, this very night your life is demanded of you. And the things you have prepared, whose will they be?”
Now normally at this point in looking at the text we might be tempted to press a point of personal stewardship, for that is surely here. What do you do with the abundance of things given to you? Do you include God in your conversations about what to do with the blessings you have received?
We just had the experience of the Mega-Millions Lottery becoming the “Mega-Billions” and so our media and new outlets have tried to find analogies as to what you could do with the jackpot if one won it. Those are attempts to put some perspective as to the size of the amounts, so they will tell us how many fancy cars one could purchase, how many vacations one could take, the size of yachts one could buy.
Curiously enough though, when they go on the street and ask people what they would do if they won the lottery, while there is some dreaming of material things, the responses usually turn very quickly to helping others. “Paying off my kids college, their mortgage, getting my parents a retirement home…”
They “shift” the focus of the conversation from luxuries to necessities, needs, doing for others.
I also want to shift the focus here, not to personal stewardship, but rather to the matter of relationship.
What prompts the conversation and the parable is really a relationship issue.
The man and his brother are not seeing eye to eye. They are in disagreement as to what to do, and so the course of action advocated is to find an amicable route for the parting of ways. “Tell my brother to divide the family inheritance with me!”
At the core, this is a parable about relationship.
It is about what you do in times of disagreement and the choices that are made.
It is about how decisions will be made, and who you are or will listen to as you make them.
Who are you, who are we talking to as we consider what to do with the blessings we have received, or the difficulties we are having with those who are supposed to be close to us?
Are our conversations rich in inquiring of God and of our neighbor?
Are our conversations rich in seeking understanding of the best course of action as it relates to our relationship with others?
Or do our conversations tend toward insisting on our own way, and finding ways to dismiss others?
Do we listen and consult Jesus as we interact with one another, or do we seek to use God as some justification for the actions for which we have already made up our minds?
The man who came to Jesus asking for the inheritance to be divided had a particular vision for what he wanted to see happen.
The tragedy is that his vision did not include remaining in relationship with anyone else in his family.
So, the Parable Jesus tells opens up the need for one to have deep conversations with someone besides oneself, or similar disaster is sure to befall!
I know that if the only person I’m talking to is myself, well I can talk myself into almost anything, and not necessarily the things that make for life.
I can talk myself into some very foolish behavior!
So today, I just want to let this phrase haunt and hover over us for a while.
Who are we talking to?
Who are we listening to?
Are we discerning what God would have us do with the abundance in our lives, not just of things, but also relationships?
Are our conversations around here rich in inquiring of God and of our neighbor, of their need and of our own ability to give?
Are our conversations here ones that seek of Jesus to help us understand our differences, to listen intently, and to seek reconciliation with those who differ from us, or are we asking Jesus to help us cut them loose so we can take what belongs to us and walk away?
Sooner or later the voice of God will break in upon every closed conversation to remind us of our limitations and mortality.
May we be ready for it when it comes.
May we seek out conversations with God and with our neighbors that will reveal to us what to best do with our abundance that ultimately leads to life.